I recently saw an article about a young man from San Francisco who survived a suicide attempt off a local bridge. For the story, click here:
One of the things that struck me about this story was how much courage he had to speak out about his mental illness, his attempt, and his despair. I wonder if I could have been so brave as to risk the stigma that attaches itself to speaking out about mental illness, to this day. But in another sense, that is how stigma is worn down and eventually broken — by speaking out, and having the self-possession and courage to say: “This is how I felt, and this is how I dealt with it.” I hope that more people speak out and help others, as it not only helps potential suicidal people but also the general public to understand that anyone can be affected by mental illness and substance abuse.
I have also spoken to some people who have recovered from mental illness and/or substance abuse, and who share their stories with others. What they often say is that it helps them get better because it reminds them of where they were, and how they have coped effectively with their affliction. It also reminds them that they are not their disease or condition; there is more to them than just a label.
This is important to remember when they’re struggling with a mental illness or substance abuse because there is an enduring person with likes, dislikes, talents, gifts, and resources that are uniquely theirs; this goes above and beyond any label like “Bipolar”, “depressed”, or “alcoholic.” As author Paul Williams once wrote, “Remember your Essence” — remember that there is more to you than what other people say or think about you. Also, whatever horrible feeling you are having right now, it does not define you either, nor is it how you will always feel. I encourage you to remember that if you suffer from mental illness, and to seek help. You don’t have to give up or live your entire life in misery. Please, have the courage to make a life worth living and to define yourself according to what you know to be true, not according to a temporary feeling or a label someone else has given you.